I was overjoyed 25 years ago when I learned we were expecting our second child. The due date was Feb. 12th. Everything was great except that due date. Secretly (and selfishly), I prayed the baby would not be born on Valentine’s Day. After all, Valentine’s Day was about, you know, “Me” – the girl! I pictured Valentine’s Day as the one day a year when my husband would lavish me with gifts and his attention. I envisioned romantic getaways, sappy cards and staring into each other’s eyes by candlelight. Pretty funny now!
My due date came and went, and I was still determined to not have a Valentine’s Day baby. When I woke up at 3am Valentine’s Day with strong contractions, I pleaded with God to wait one more day. I tried to take a bath and will the contractions away. A few hours later, I was at the hospital holding my precious newborn son.
Looking back, having a Valentine’s Day baby was the greatest gift I could have ever been given. While others had romantic evenings, my Valentine days were always spent sharing in the excitement of my son’s birthday with all his friends. I never felt lonely, sad or unloved on Valentine’s Day – in fact, it was quite the opposite. I had the perfect Valentine’s Day every year!
Although this is just a silly, but true, example, it always reminds me of the depth of God’s love for us. He allowed this Hallmark day I cared so much about to still be a special day for me. I never had a husband or romantic partner by my side on Valentine’s Day while raising my Valentine baby the first 18 years of his life. Yet, I had the most incredible Valentine’s Days and would not have changed them for the world.
I’m so thankful God didn’t answer my prayer requests in the way I wanted, but instead found a better way. This is a trivial example, but life can be hard when you can’t see the big picture. If you are struggling and would like some positive support, please reach out to me at coach@mariavigodsky.com or 850.291.7124. May this day and every day be special for you!